Text Box: case there was nothing “OK” about any of it.  
However; it simply means that you can and do CHOOSE to either take what they do and say as the gospel truth and recognize them as the absolute authority on YOU—OR— You can CHOOSE to realize that others feelings and what they say about you and their actions have no power over you UNLESS you allow them to have power.
Embracing and living in Victim Consciousness is really a very safe place to be because you never, ever have to take any personal responsibility whatsoever for your actions.
Safe, does not however move you forward into self-empowerment and realization of yourself as an aspect of the Divine Source—a Spiritual Being who is having a Human Experience.
In my case—as in the case with so many men and women and their relationships, men were always “taking advantage of me and it just wasn’t fair”.
In truth this was a direct reflection of the victim consciousness which I had embraced and the fact that the problem was not the men and what they did, but the choice that I had made about them in the first place.  They were who they were and they had always been that.  I just refused to see it until it became so apparent that I could no longer ignore it.  My choices in men were abysmal and I got just what I had Text Box: called to me every single time based on what I felt—down deep inside—I was worth or not worth.
Nobody did that to me—I choose to base my worth on what had happened to me rather than on who I really was.
Additionally, it enabled me to just reinforce my attachment to the victim archetype since again it was “oh poor me” and that victim consciousness ball of confusion just grew more and more.
I absolutely believe that we CHOOSE everything that happens in our life and that unless and until you embrace self-responsibility you will remain attached to the victim archetype and will never truly grow and transform.
I constantly talk with people who are entangled in situations of their own making and who refuse to make another choice and move on with their lives.
I hear things like:
“I know that this is a bad situation; but, he/she has so much potential”.  GET REAL—unrealized potential is just that—unrealized.  Additionally your perception of someone else’s potential isn’t worth the breath it takes to say it.  Until one realizes and acts on their own potential—whatever THEY choose for it to be—that potential is unrealized.
“I’m staying for the kids Text Box: because I am afraid to go out on my own”.  OK, then stay but quit complaining since it is your choice to stay and you are also choosing to succumb to FEAR—which is “FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL”.   All that your kids are learning is that victimhood is OK—Is that what you want for your children?
“If only my daddy/mommy had loved me more everything would be ok”.  GET OVER IT! They loved you to the best of their ability/in-ability and that is that.  I for one am VERY thankful that my parents loved me the way they did/did not because I would have never stepped out of the box without their impetus.
“They did such a bad thing to me and I just can’t get over it”.  Another choice you are making—go ahead—continue to give your power away to “them”.  A nice and safe place where you never have to claim any responsibility
All of the above are SHINING examples of victim consciousness in action.
I have no right at all to tell you what to do; however, I will say that if any of this “rings a bell” with you then perhaps it is time to take a look at what you are creating in your life and at the choices you have made to not be self-

Have you ever heard this?

“You made your bed now you have to lie in it”.

How about this instead —-

“if you don’t like the bed you are in—the one you have made for yourself— then make a new bed and keep on making new beds until you find one that works for you”!

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